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Getting What You Want: Part Two

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In our last post, we started to look into what steps we need to take in order to get what we want. In this post, we will wrap up with our final two steps that will help you accomplish this goal!

If you’re just joining us now, you may want to go back and read part one so you won’t be confused. To summarize, our first two steps in getting what we want are to admit to yourself that you want something and then to ask yourself why it is that you want that thing. Let’s proceed with our final two steps below!


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STEP 3. ADOPT AN ALTERNATIVE BELIEF. Now that you know what the root belief that is causing you grief and problems is, Qyou now have the opportunity to do something about it. It might take a little creativity, but you have to create an alternative to that incorrect belief.

This might take a little time – and will take some thought. Once you identify a new belief, test various outcomes you could expect if you actually did take that new belief on.

It may seem an oversimplification, but let’s take an alternative belief in the dog situation described earlier. If your alternative belief became that most dogs are friendly, you would look forward to meeting dogs. In the case that you did meet the random mean dog, it still fits into your belief that MOST dogs are friendly. If that gives you a better result that better meets your needs over time, then you probably have found the belief that you need to include in your Belief Window.

Let me warn you that this is not easy because you are actually trying to change what you believe to be true. But don’t give up, move on to step 4 to see how well this can work for you.

STEP 4. ACT AS IF. You might be asking yourself how you can actually change something that you believe is a truth and replace it with something that you either aren’t sure is true or don’t even think is true. Step back and simply let yourself “act as if” the new belief IS true. You have already identified the problem belief and you know it is not working for you. You have already identified an alternative belief and have determined that the results of a behavior based on that new belief will probably give you the results you want. What do you have to lose? And what do you have to gain?

Scientists have proven that behavior creates neural pathways in our brains. It is by repeating those behaviors over and over that we create “habits” that feel normal. We have the capability to consciously create new behaviors that create new neural pathways to become habits and a new norm. Repeatedly acting “as if” the new belief is true establishes and reinforces new neural pathways.


Remember that your beliefs drive your behaviors. So when you change your beliefs, you actually change behaviors. So when a behavior doesn’t get you the outcomes that meet your needs, get to the root and change the belief that is the kernel the behavior grows from. The reason I think this is one of the most powerful skills or tools you can have is that once you see the power of it working once, you will see that you really are the captain of your destiny. You are not a victim of stormy waters. And that is one belief that every entrepreneur and small business owner who wants to be successful can use.

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Jack Klemeyer

Jack Klemeyer

Grow Your Business™ Coaching founder Jack Klemeyer is recognized as a preeminent resource and program developer as a business coach, consultant, speaker, trainer and facilitator of Mastermind groups for entrepreneurs, business professionals and companies of all sizes.
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