Have you been searching for ways to stay zen in stressful situations? Your response to any difficult problem is up to you. You can face it with the right tools.
Staying calm, composed and maintaining strong self-esteem in today’s tough environment can be difficult, but is not impossible if you follow a few simple guidelines. You need to be aware that everything and everyone else around you can affect your self-esteem. Other people can deliberately or inadvertently damage your self-image. Unchecked people and circumstances can ultimately destroy your self-esteem and pull you down in ways you won’t even notice. Don’t let these influences get the best of you. But what should you avoid? Remember what my friend Paul Martinelli, president of the John Maxwell Team says, “If someone else can make you sad, mad or glad…you’ve been had.”
6 Tips You Can Use As A Starter Guide To Be A Better You
A negative work environment
Beware of a “dog eat dog” environment where everyone else is fighting just to get ahead. This is where unappreciative people usually thrive. Where working extra is expected not rewarded or worse, even acknowledged. In this environment no one will appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch, dinner, and stay at work late into the night. We all know how it is to deal with annoying coworkers You can’t escape; that is of course, unless you are very fortunate to have a good leader or boss. Most of the time you will work too hard with no help from the others around you. This type of atmosphere will ruin your self-esteem. Not only is it unhealthy, but the brutality of unrelenting competition could pose lasting damage.
- Other people’s behavior
Bulldozers, brown-nosers, gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, snipers, people walking wounded, controllers, naggers, complainers, (I feel like Ralphie in the movie, A Christmas Story, when the lug nuts hit the snow as I list these off) exploders, patronizers, sluffers – whatever you want to call them, all have one thing in common: An overriding desire to prosper at the expense of others. Avoid them and do not be tempted to join them. They may get some short term advantage with their behavior, but deep down most are very insecure, unhappy and ashamed of their behavior. For most, their self-esteem disappeared a long time ago. Seeing someone like this prosper is sickening, but do not join them. You are better than that!
- A changing environment
In today’s fast moving society it is difficult if not impossible to avoid change. Changes challenge our paradigms and test our flexibility, adaptability and alter the way we think. Changes can make your life difficult and may cause stress but, if it’s inevitable, you must accept it, don’t fight it. In time, you will find ways to improve your life. Try to manage change and try to avoid multiple changes at the same time. If a particular change can’t be avoided, welcome it. Change will be with us forever, we must learn to live with it. The element with the most flexibility will be the controlling element. Stay flexible.
Let’s take a break and continue on next time. Take time to reflect back on these first few tips and think about how you can apply them to your own work and home life. How can you respond to these challenges using these tips? We will take a look at the final three steps in the next post, so when you’re ready take a peek at part two!